GREAT SEX
CONTENTS
Introduction:
WHY EVERY MANY WHO HAS SEEN
ANY PORNOGRAPHY NEEDS THIS BOOK
PART 1: PRINCIPLES OF GREAT SEX FOR MEN
Chapter 1:
TOTAL-BODY SENSUALITY: THE FOUNDATION OF GREAT SEX
Beyond “Foreplay” • Touch • The Basics of Massage • The
Sexual Benefits of Whole-Body Massage • Sight • Sound •
Taste • Smell • The Total-Body Solution to a Major
Sex-Killer--Stress • Secrets of Deep Relaxation • How
Total-Body Sensuality Enhances Intimacy • Making a Game of
Intimate Play • What About Quickies?
Chapter 2:
FIT FOR GREAT SEX:
YOUR FITNESS, NUTRITION, AND LIFESTYLE CHOICES MATTER
Healthy Body, Better Sex • The Sexual Benefits of Regular
Exercise • The Subtle Workout That Boosts the Pleasure of
Orgasm • Bulking Up Hits Men Below the Belt • The Sexual
Benefits of Weight Loss • The Sexual Benefits of Stress
Management • The Sexual Benefits of a Good Night’s Sleep •
Never Confuse Sex and Sleep • The Sexual Benefits of
Quitting Smoking • The Sexual Benefits of Responsible
Alcohol Consumption.
Chapter 3:
SEXUAL STATIC: COMMON HANG-UPS THAT SABOTAGE SEX
My Penis is Too Small. How Can I Make it Larger? • Safe,
Simple Suggestions • Natural Approaches to Size Enhancement
• Help from Technology • Forget Surgery • The Dubious
Benefits of a Huge One • Is It Okay to Masturbate As Much
As I Do? • Now That I’m in a Relationship, Is It Still Okay
to Masturbate? • How Can I Give Her Incredible Orgasms? •
I’m a Virgin. How Can I Act Like I Know What I’m Doing? •
Do Men Peak Sexually at 18? • I Think About Sex All the
Time. Am I a Sex Addict? • During Sex with my
Girlfriend/Wife, I Have Fantasies of Other Women. Is that
Okay? • I Sometimes Fantasize Having Sex with Men. Am I
Gay?
Chapter 4:
RELIABLE ERECTIONS FOR LIFE: EVERY MAN’S GUIDE
The New World of Erectile Dysfunction (ED) • Erection
Problems are Surprisingly Common • Men’s Sexual Body and
How It Works • The Many Causes of ED • Sexual Mythology Can
Deflate Erection • ED Confessions of a Former Male Porn
Star • It’s Okay to Receive Pleasure • Relationship
Problems and Other Life Stresses • Growing Older • Acute
Illness • The Bicycling Connection • High Cholesterol and
Blood Pressure • Smoking • Obesity • Diabetes •
Neurological Conditions • Hormonal Imbalances • Birth
Defects • Genital and Urinary Tract Conditions • Depression
• Alcohol • Other Drugs • Prostate Cancer Treatment • How
to Visit a Doctor for an Erection Problem • The Many
Treatments for Erection Dissatisfaction and ED • Six
Secrets of Firmer Erections • The Sensual Non-Intercourse
Solution • Viagra and Other Erection Drugs: Everything You
Need to Know • Low-Dose Medication for “Erection Insurance”
• Viagra-Vation: Erection Resurrection Can Cause
Relationship Problems • Other ED Treatments •
Chapter 5:
LAST AS LONG AS YOU WANT:
PRINCIPLES OF SUPERB EJACULATORY CONTROL
A Common, Curable Problem • And Old Problem--And a New One
• Why It Happens • How to Last As Long as You’d Like •
Every Man’s Guide to Erotic Breathing • The Solo Program •
The Couple’s Program • The 8-Step Method • Practice Kegel
Exercises • Arouse Your Whole Body • Relax Major Muscle
Groups • Vocalize Your Arousal • Adjust Your Fantasies •
The Stop-Start Technique • The Squeeze Technique • Slow
Insertion • Pressing in Deeply • The Woman-on-Top Position
• Spooning • Drugs for Lasting Longer • Common Treatments
to Avoid • If Good Control Suddenly Goes Bad • How Lasting
Longer Affects Your Relationship • If Your Lover Doesn’t
Want to Help • Simultaneous Orgasm?
Chapter 6:
EJACULATION DIFFICULTIES: MEN’S SECRET SEX PROBLEM:
From Ancient Fascination to Modern Footnote • More Common
Than Most People Think • The Difference Between Ejaculation
and Orgasm • Causes of Ejaculation Difficulties • Drugs
That Cause Ejaculation Problems • How Vasectomy Affects
Ejaculation • Treatment of Ejaculation Difficulties • You
Don’t Have to Ejaculate Every Time • Learn to Receive
Pleasure • Get the Stimulation You Need • The Complete
Satisfaction Program
PART 2: WOMEN’S SEXUALITY AND PLEASURE
Chapter 7:
HER SEXUAL BODY: A COMPLETE GUIDE
Inside, Outside, and All Around • Everything You Need to
Know About Her Sexual Anatomy • Too Tight? Too Loose? Why
Vaginas Vary? • The G-Spot and Female Ejaculation • Her
Hidden Erogenous Zones • Sexual Responsiveness: It’s
Different for Women • Women’s Arousal: Vast Variety •
Women’s Orgasms: Highly Individual • Sex and Her Menstrual
Cycle • Sex with Kids in the Picture • The Sexual Changes
of Menopause
Chapter 8:
HER PLEASURE AND ORGASM: HELPING HER ENJOY GREAT SEX
What Men Are Up Against • How Porn Misleads Men About
Women’s Sexuality • Caressing and Beyond: Erotic Tips for
Men • Appreciate Afterglow • Boost Her Chances of Orgasm
During Intercourse • Woman on Top • Doggie Style • Spooning
• The Coital Alignment Technique • Mock Intercourse
(Outercourse) • Recognizing Her Orgasm • In Their Own
Words: Women Describe Their Orgasms • Multiple Orgasms?
Chapter 9:
WHEN SEX IS A CHALLENGE FOR HER:
YOUR SUPPORT CAN HELP RESOLVE HER PROBLEMS
Pain During Intercourse • Doing It With a Virgin: When It’s
Her First Time • Help for Pre-Orgasmic Women • How You Can
Help Her Become Orgasmic
Chapter 10:
SEXUAL TRAUMA: WHAT EVERY MAN MUST KNOW
How Sexual Trauma Affects Survivors • The Road to Sexual
Healing • If the Woman You Love Gets Raped • How Men Can
Help Women Recover from Sexual Assault • If the Women You
Love Has Ever Been Stalked
PART 3: MEETING EVERYONE’S NEEDS
Chapter 11:
“YOU WANT TO TRY WHAT?”
NEGOTIATING LUBRICANTS, TOYS, ORAL AND ANAL PLAY
The Subtle Art of Sexual Negotiation • Mastering Oral Sex.
• Giving Oral Sex to Women (Cunnilingus): Tips for Men •
The Basics • Beyond the Basics • Orgasm Issues • Hygiene
Issues • Why Douches Do More Harm Than Good • Giving Oral
Sex to Men (Fellatio): Tips for Women • The Basics • Beyond
the Basics • Deep Throating and Getting Past Gagging •
Orgasm Issues • Hygiene Issues • To Spit or Swallow? •
Hypospadias: A Common and Little-Known Penile Birth Defect
• Can the Taste of Semen Be Improved? • Lubricants: The
Slippery Secret of Great Sex • Lubrication in Women •
Lubrication in Men • Four Kinds • Lubricants vs. HIV •
Playing for Grownups: Fun with Sex Toys • Dildos and
Vibrators • Do Vibrators “Ruin” Women for Partner Sex? •
Introducing Sex Toys into Partner Sex • Anal Play • Anal
Anatomy • Hygiene Issues • The Basics • Orgasm Issues •
Other Issues
Chapter 12:
BIRTH CONTROL: SEX IS BEST WHEN MEN GET INVOLVED
A Man’s Guide to Contraceptive Effectiveness •
Non-Intercourse Lovemaking (Outercourse) • Withdrawal •
Condom for Men • Condom for Women • Spermicidal Foam •
Vaginal Contraceptive Film • Diaphragm • Cervical Cap •
Contraceptive Sponge • Fertility Awareness • Birth Control
Pills • Will There Ever Be a Pill for Men? • Intrauterine
Device (IUD) • Progestin Injection (Depo-Provera) •
Estrogen-Progestin Injection (Lunelle) • Estrogen-Progestin
Ring (Nuvaring) • Estrogen-Progestin Patch (Ortho Evra) •
Sterilization for Men: Vasectomy • Sterilization for Women:
Tubal Ligation and Essure • Emergency Contraception After
Unprotected Intercourse • Abortion • Toxic Shock Syndrome:
The Contraception Connection • How to Find a Family
Planning Clinic Near You
Chapter 13:
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS:
SMART DECISIONS LEAD TO GREAT SEX
Speak Up! • STI’s...Or Whatever They’re Called • Cheating?
Maybe Not • Telling an Ex You Have an STI • Telling Your
Current Lover You Have an STI • Getting Treated • Sex
During STI Treatment • Genital Warts • Trichomoniasis •
Chlamydia • Gonorrhea • Herpes • Hepatitis B • Hepatitis C
• HIV/AIDS • Syphilis • Beyond Condoms: Diaphragms and
Cervical Caps Help Prevent STI Transmission • Pelvic
Inflammatory Disease (PID): STIs Can Kill Women •
Nongonococcal Urethritis • Yeast Vaginitis • Urinary Tract
Infection • Crabs • Scabies • Free, Anonymous STI
Information Anytime
PART 4: SEXUAL DESIRE AND SATISFACTION
Chapter 14:
“YOU NEVER WANT TO.” “YOU’RE INSATIABLE.”
THE STRUGGLE OVER DESIRE DIFFERENCES AND LOST LIBIDO
When Sexual Heat Cools • “Sex Fends” and “Nymphos”: Who
Wants Sex More? • Who Controls Your Sex? • Working Out
Desire Differences • Count Your Blessings • Be Flexible •
Find a Friend on the Opposite Side of a Desire Difference •
Explore Underlying Psychological Issues • Don’t Try to
Change Your Lover’s Libido • You Have Three Choices •
Negotiate • Something Is Better Than Nothing • Schedule Sex
Dates • What If I’m Not in the Mood? • Embrace Your
Schedule with Good Will • Cultivate Nonsexual Affection •
Restore Good Will in the Relationship • Libido Loss: Its
Many Causes and Possible Solutions
Chapter 15:
APHRODISIACS: THE NEW SCIENCE OF SEX STIMULATION
Myths, Medieval Medical Theory, and Traditional Herbal
Medicine • The Art and Science of Seduction • Caffeine •
Chaste Tree • Chocolate • Damiana • Fish • Garlic • Ginkgo
• Ginseng • Maca • Muira Pauma • Oats • Oysters • Quebracho
• Saw Palmetto • Tribulus Terrestris • Wild Yam • Yohimbe •
Sex Boosters for the 21st Century • Androgens • ArginMax •
EROS Clitoral Therapy Device • Pheromones • Triphasic Birth
Control Pills • Viagra • Voluntary Sterilization •
Wellbutrin • Zestra • Sensual and Emotional Sex Boosters
for All Time • Get In Shape for Great Sex • Make Sex a
Priority • Simmer Your Desire • Read a Good Book • Play a
Game • Slow Down • Massage • Lubricant • Try Sex Toys • Try
Sexually Explicit Media • Nurture Her Sexuality • Minimize
Her Self-Consciousness • Invest in Ambiance • Dare to Be a
Little Sexier • Do Some PREP Work • Forget Vitamins for
Sexual Vigor • A Skeptic’s Guide to Internet Aphrodisiacs
Chapter 16:
WHEN SELF-HELP ISN'T ENOUGH:
A COUPLE’S GUIDE TO SEX THERAPY
Diane and Alan Have a Problem • The Newest Mental Health
Profession • What Happens During Sex Therapy • Problems Sex
Therapy Can Help • Sex Therapy Works • Duration and Cost •
Diane and Alan: A Happy Ending • How to Find a Sex
Therapist
Resources
Three dozen organizations, Web sites, products, and sources
of authoritative sex information